How To Stop Worrying and Start Living – Dale Carnegie.
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie is a masterpiece on how to overcome worries and enjoy your life. in this book, Carnegie focuses on problem-solving methods by presenting real stories related to worries in different aspects and tricks and tips.
FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY.
In this part of the book, Dale Carnegie has explained the real problems of the worries. The one line the writer says is a clear picture.
“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.”
Dale Carnegie shows the main problem in this chapter is how people all over the world have been suffering more from mental illness than physical illness.
More than half of all hospital beds are occupied by people with nervous and emotional problems.
- To overcome worry, Live in “day-tight compartments”. I.e., live in the present, don’t entertain the past, and do not forecast the future.
- The second rule is to overcome worry-
- Analyze the situation,
- Accommodate yourself to accept the worst that can happen.
- Take your time to improve on the worst situation.
- Think before worrying too much about impacts that will occur on your health.
BASIC TECHNIQUES IN ANALYSING WORRY.
The whole chapter was classified into three basic steps to analyze the problem.
- Get the facts,
- Analyze the facts.
- Arrive at a decision and then act on that decision.
Results say that by following these four steps you will be able to banish ninety percent of your worries.
- Writing down precisely what I am worried about.
- Writing down what I can do about it.
- Deciding what to do.
- Starting immediately to carry out that decision.
HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABIT BEFORE IT BREAKS YOU.
- Keeping yourself busy is the best therapy to avoid worries. As there is a saying “Empty Mind is the Devil’s Workshop.”
- Don’t fuss about trifles. Don’ts permit little things to affect your happiness. Remember “Life is too short to be little”
Let’s ask yourself one question:
- “What are the chances, according to the law of averages, that this event I am worrying about will ever occur?”
- Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know circumstances are beyond your power to change, accept it and move on. Do not overthink.
- Set a “stop-loss”, at which point you should set a stop to your worries and forget about it.
- Let the past bury its dead. Don’t dwell on the past.
7 WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING YOU PEACE AND HAPPINESS.
- “Our life is what our thoughts make it.”– Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope.
- Let’s never waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like. – Never try to get even with your enemies, because in other ways you will hurt yourself.
- Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude but to give for the joy of giving.
- Count your blessings– not your worries.
- Let’s be yourself – Let’s not imitate others.
- When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make lemonade.
- Always remember “ when you are good to others, you are best to yourself.”
THE GOLDEN RULE FOR CONQUERING WORRY.
- Unjust criticism is often disguised as a compliment. When you are unjustly criticized, remember it is because others are jealous of you.
- Let your work speak, Do the best out of yourself.
- Engage in constructive self-criticism. Keep a record of the foolish things that you have done since you can’t hope to be perfect.
SIX WAYS TO PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRY AND KEEP YOUR ENERGY AND SPIRITS HIGH.
- Rest before you get tired. Don’t force yourself to work, always rest a little.
- Learn to relax at your work. Take a break and nap in between work.
- If you are a housewife, Protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home.
- Learn to organize, deputize and supervise –learn to classify your problems in order of their importance and write it down on the paper and the necessary decisions after analyzing the facts.
- Put enthusiasm into your work. – Always enjoy the work you are doing. This will help to prevent you from worrying and fatiguing.
- No one was ever killed by lack of sleep. Remember worrying too much about problems will cause insomnia.
HOW TO FIND THE KIND OF WORK IN WHICH YOU MAY BE HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL.
- Find the right profession at the right time.
- Don’t feel compelled to enter a business or trade just because your family wants you to do it!
- Don’t enter a career unless you want to do it!
- Consider these points while selecting a vocational– guidance counselor:
- Don’t go to anyone who tells you that he has a magic system that will indicate your ‘VOCATIONAL APTITUDE’
- Don’t go to anyone who tells you that he can give you a test that will indicate what occupation you should choose.
- Seek a vocational counselor who has an adequate library of information about occupation and uses it in the counseling process.
- A thorough vocational-guidance service generally requires more than one interview.
- Nerve accepts vocational guidance by mail.
- Keep out of business and professions that are already jam-packed and overflowing!
- Stay out of activities where the chances are only one out of ten of you being able to make a living.
- Spend weeks-even months, if necessary-finding out all you can about an occupation before deciding to devote your life to it!
- Get over the mistaken belief that you are fitted for only a single occupation!
HOW TO LESSEN YOUR FINANCIAL WORRIES.
- Get the facts down on paper. Always maintain a note on your expenses.
- Get a tailor-made budget that fits your needs. Prioritize your expenses based on your needs.
- Learn how to spend wisely. Get the best value for money when you buy.
- Don’t increase your headaches with your income. Don’t increase your expenses while increasing your income.
- Try to build credit, in the event you must borrow. There is nothing bad about taking a loan in case of an emergency.
- Protect yourself against illness, fire, and emergency expenses. Take insurance policies against accidents, illness, and so on.
- Do not have your life insurance proceeds paid to your widow in cash. They might not have any idea how to make the most out of the lump sum money so the better way is a monthly income for life.
- Teach your children a responsible attitude towards money. Realizing children’s money management at an early age helps them in adulthood.
- If necessary, make a little extra money. Don’t depend on the single earring source of income try to make a dual source of earning it can be small also but it helps in a greater way.
- Don’t gamble-ever. You can’t win the game unfairly, it’s short-term.
- If we can’t possibly improve our financial situation, let’s be good to ourselves and stop resenting what can’t be changed.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Dale Carnegie (November 24, 1888 – November 1, 1955) was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in Self Development, Salesmanship, Corporate Training, Public speaking, and interpersonal skills. Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936), a bestseller that remains popular today. He also wrote How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948), Lincoln the Unknown (1932), and several other books.
One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people’s behavior by changing one’s behavior towards them.